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How to Be a Leader and NOT Feel Overwhelmed!

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If so, here’s how to be the type of leader that others look up to in order to solve their most meaningful problems:

How to Be A Leader and NOT be Overwhelmed!

Posted by HeartCore Business on Thursday, March 14, 2019

It’s hard to lead other extremes when you can’t lead yourself.

Is anxiety stealing your joyful spirit? Here’s the raw truth: Many of us invite certain emotions and feelings into our lives without knowing it. And negative ideas and beliefs can take root.

These destructive beliefs are not true. But we tend to believe worst-case scenarios. In this blog, I am going to show you how to stop entertaining undesirable emotions.

Especially the feeling of being overwhelmed!

Luckily, I can help you with this.

I don’t remember the last time I felt overwhelmed. To be able to say that is pretty awesome. And before I made specific changes, I would let those feelings control me.

Example: Last week I did three events back to back. Those events would have wrecked me at an earlier time! We did pretty much one right after the other. And you know what? I feel great.

So much so that we just added 10 more events to my calendar.

We’re going to go all in this year . . . and it is not at the expense of my family. It’s not at the cost of me being a great mother or wife or friend.

Listen, I know you.

  • You’re not that different from me.
  • You likely want to grow your impact, which warms your heart.
  • I know you need to be present for the people who matter. And I appreciate you don’t want to feel resentful when somebody says, “Let’s go out for dinner” or “Let’s go for a walk at the local park.”

And if you feel like you can’t say yes to ANY new activity, then please read this entire message.

Because I wrote it for you, OK? Listen, I know how you might be feeling right now. Just reading this is putting pressure on your TIME TO GET STUFF DONE.

So let’s change that, shall we?

I want you to revive your heart. Encourage your soul and put the pep back in your step. Without feeling guilt. Shame. Accusation and doubts.

Those are unbearable feelings!

And it’s time for them to STOP.

And listen, I’m just like you.

I used to think that even fun activities would take away from my happiness. Or impact my “to-do list.”

“This will overwhelm me further than I already am. This activity will DEFEAT me.” Those are the thoughts I was putting into my mind! And this was about me having FUN and not doing any work. Are you in the same boat I was?

What is the #1 thing that has helped me?

I would say it is focusing on the step that I’m in.

Here’s the deal: The goal of eliminating overwhelm is to slow down your thinking. It’s not to slow down the activities you’re in.

My activities now keep getting bigger. How does this happen? How do I have more time for myself, my family, and my close friends?

And how am I doing BETTER in my business than ever?

How do I do that?

You manage your mind. The emotion of feeling overwhelmed starts as a thought. So if you can slow down your thinking, you will be less triggered to go into negative emotions like guilt or shame.

Because once you start the negative thinking, then you go down the rabbit hole. Things get worse, and you get mean. You get short. And it’s just a ripple effect of absolute chaos.

I want you to tell me, are you someone who gets overwhelmed, and what is that costing you?

What Happens If This Thinking Is Not Fixed?

What does it cost you? A closer relationship with your significant other?

Is it costing you being 10 pounds overweight or 50 pounds overweight?

Does it cost you your stress level, your adrenal fatigue? Years off your life?

The result of not taking care of your thinking is . . .

You won’t show up for your kids. You won’t show up for them because you won’t have time. You’ll be too busy feeling frazzled and disconnected.

Or you won’t show up for your significant other.

All of that behavior started with a single thought in your mind. And that can be fixed!

That truth has always been a sense of relief to me because I know that neither you nor I wants to pull back.

You can’t let overwhelm shrink your business.

I know people who are afraid to grow their companies because they don’t want to work with more people.

Or they don’t want to build the structures to be successful.

Or they don’t want to kill their life.

And I’m telling you that is self-centered thinking.

I don’t mean that negatively. I’m trying to open up your level of generosity to give. If you’ve got something that can help other people, you have to train your brain to think differently.

So stay in the step you’re in, and refuse to operate from a place of adverse reactions.

Create boundaries in your life. You can still get to the other tasks, but you’re going to get to them on your own timeline.

Because you are the common denominator. So whatever you’re doing today, focus on the step you’re in. I have coffee mugs that say: “Focus on the step.”

Next, Stop Letting Your Phone Control You.

People are addicted to their phones.

Your nervous system needs a break. How can we fix this?

Well, I have good news. There’s a product out there called earthing pads or grounding pads. You can order them on Amazon.

I use them, and they work! The best part is, they’re reasonably priced. In fact, I have an earthing pad on my bed.

I use the earthing pad and I put my bare feet on it. You’ve got to have bare skin on it. I put my bare feet on it when I go to sleep, or I put it on my back. I put my son on one as well.

Why do I do this? Well, these pads actually take the voltage out of your body. I recommend that you go get one.

Here’s a link to the one that I use.

Chances are you’ve been told a million times to turn off your phone. Get away from technology. And you still find yourself on it.

That’s why I use these pads. Grounding pads are another way to alleviate the voltage in your body that is taxing your immune system.

Your system can handle a lot, but we’re inundating it with toxins all the time.

Let’s Recap:

  • Focus on 3 results a week only. If you try to accomplish too many things, you’ll get buried in your to-do list.
  • Don’t tell people you are overwhelmed! You strengthen the power of this toxic devil when you do that. But most of all, people lose trust in you. If you want to be a leader, you need to train yourself to think slower. Just focus on that.
  • Schedule FUN time. Don’t just take a day off! Schedule fun with other people so you HAVE to do it.
  • Date nights are amazing if you are lucky enough to have a love in your life. Don’t forget to turn your phones off.
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Shanda Sumpter

CEO HeartCore Business

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Hi! I’m Shanda Sumpter, owner of HeartCore Business, investor to entrepreneurs on The Pitch, and named as one of Inc. 5000’s fastest growing companies in 2017, 2018, and 2019. I’ve helped business owners all over the nation grow and scale their businesses while enjoying their lives more. I believe in giving generously and being honest—all in the name of leaving a legacy.

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