Is The Ideal Woman In Your Head Running Your Life?

Is The Ideal Woman In Your Head Running Your Life?


If you are a woman, you know the voice well in your head that tells you that you should look better, be skinnier, make more money, and have a better life.  

The problem is that this voice, that has been referred to by many as the IDEAL WOMAN,  is brutal!

I remember when I started my company HeartCore Women , my ideal woman was bitching at me constantly.  

  • Shanda, you aren’t good enough to work with private clients. As if you’ll be able to help them make money. 
  • The biggest one was: why would anyone partner (JV) with you?  You don’t even have a list or anything of value to offer them.  

It was a constant battle between my soul purpose and what my Ideal Woman’s expectations were for me.  

Today, I’m happy to announce that, with a lot of business coaching, spiritual practice, and a deep desire to make my life worth something, my company has served over 10,000 women, helping them to make more money while making a big difference in the world. 

No matter what conversations are going on in your mind, DON’T give up on your dreams.  It’s all possible when you make that voice simmer down. 

Let’s check in: What is your IDEAL Woman saying to you all day in the background of your mind?

Perhaps a better question is: what internal conversation is stopping you from doing something important?

A) My suggestion is to take a moment and write out what you really want most of all in your life right now.

B) Brainstorm some things that you could do this week to move you toward that dream coming true.  Write those ideas down on a sheet of paper.

C) Now what is the Ideal Woman saying in your head right now about why you won't succeed or can't do it yet?

What would it look like if you told your Ideal Woman to be quiet while you tried something new and just did it?  What step could you take to shatter that inner dialog and re-energize a new side of you?

When you are going after a dream or trying to build your company, you will experience a confrontation with your Ideal Woman.  Consider the fact that your Ideal 

Woman isn’t going anywhere.  You’re married to her for life, so you need a better strategy to have her work for you.

The BEST formula that I’ve seen so far is to let her know that you’ve heard her but you need to have your own experience today, and just do it.  Treat yourself with respect, and treat your Ideal Woman with respect, even if she is having a BAD day! 

I hope that this helped change your perspective on why you don’t live into your potential and helped give you some helpful tips on how you can be all that you want to be, starting today.

Please leave me a comment below and let me know what you discovered about yourself today.  


Much Love,

Shanda Sumpter

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Hi! I’m Shanda Sumpter, owner of HeartCore Business, investor to entrepreneurs on The Pitch, and named as one of Inc. 5000’s fastest growing companies in 2017, 2018, and 2019. I’ve helped business owners all over the nation grow and scale their businesses while enjoying their lives more. I believe in giving generously and being honest—all in the name of leaving a legacy.

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