It’s Not Un-feminine To  Make a lot of Money

Is it hard for successful, single women to find successful men or men that want to commit long term?


I know I can get in a lot of trouble for saying this but…

Whether you’re a man or a woman, when you make a lot of money, often there’s a part of you that thinks you are the BOSS!

Don’t get me wrong, making a lot of money is amazing!

I’m not saying that it’s BAD if you make a lot of money, but typically, with high levels of income, you have high levels of substance abuse and addiction… you have high levels of depression or mental challenges or you’re just bossy and that can be hard to be around!

Often what it takes to make a lot of money, is a huge amount of sacrifice, and who’s willing to make that sacrifice?

The people who are running from something.

And, I’m a full advocate of making a lot of money, but along the way you have to address some of these challenges. You have to look at what you might be running from and deal with it. Because if you don’t, you’ll find that no matter how hard you work, you won’t be satisfied!

So, what’s the #1 thing powerful women hear from men…?

“I didn’t know you needed me. I don’t know where I fit.”

And all we need from men is to hold us.

To all the men out there… dating or married to strong women…we need you to be there so we can rest into you.

We need you to NOT stop bringing flowers.

We need you to be okay with the fact that we have an opinion.

And ladies, you need to not take his voice away.

I found myself holding space, holding ‘the bucket’ for my husband.

And all the relationship courses out there talk about men holding ‘the bucket’ for women.

Where’s the course for women…? lol

It’s not un-feminine to make a lot of money.

It’s not wrong, but the roles do reverse.

Let’s be honest… what it took to get there was for her to be a little bossy, to be a little bitchy, to be on top of her game.

You gotta put those things away, just like in any relationship; a woman and a woman, a man and a man, a man and a wife… whatever.

He makes the money. She makes the money. It doesn’t matter.

You’re going to have to change when you come into a partnership. The most important thing is, you need to figure out how to be in the partnership.

Both of your lives are important and no one trumps the other one because of money!

If you WORK with your spouse or love partner then post a comment below and tell us how you get along. What tricks have you learned that work?

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Hi! I’m Shanda Sumpter, owner of HeartCore Business, investor to entrepreneurs on The Pitch, and named as one of Inc. 5000’s fastest growing companies in 2017, 2018, and 2019. I’ve helped business owners all over the nation grow and scale their businesses while enjoying their lives more. I believe in giving generously and being honest—all in the name of leaving a legacy.

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